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How to Handle a Kid who Wants to Control Everything

Dear Kid Whisperer,

How do you handle an almost 4-year-old who wants to control everything? He had a friend over and I was outside with the friend’s parents. It started to rain, so we said we were going inside, and my son stood in front of the door with his arms stretched and said, “No we aren’t!” When we got inside, he took toys from his friend. I took him aside and said he needed to play kindly or we would ask our friends to leave. Then they went upstairs and played for awhile. My son and his friend moved every piece of furniture in front of his door including his mattress, bedding, books, clothes, and hangers. He said they did it because they wanted to stay together. I had him clean up the mess and said next time you won’t be able to play upstairs alone together. I just feel embarrassed that my son was such a bossy terror. Do you have advice?

-Jessica, Ft. Lauderdale, Florida

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How to Deal With Constant Requests for Snacks

Dear Kid Whisperer,

 

Snacking. My kids are eating 24/7. We have plenty to do, but everything we do needs a snack to go with it. I also don’t want to give my kids eating complexes. I’m trying to balance it out. I need phrases to get them through to the next meal. We do have a mid-day snack every day, but they want dessert after every meal, too! -Mary, Louisville, KY

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How to Deal With Clashing Parenting Styles in Shared Custody

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I came to see a parent workshop you did and I used the Love and Logic™ skill that you taught and immersed myself in Love and Logic™ books and other materials. It has changed my life and my relationship with my daughter. The problem is, I am divorced from her father, who has shared custody. He doesn’t have these skills and he is mean and yells at her a lot. I try to tell him how to do what I have learned and I get frustrated when my daughter reports to me about how he yelled at her because she acted out in ways that she never tries with me anymore. How do I get her dad to use these wonderful skills? -Tamara, Nashville, TN

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How to Deal With a Kid Who Won’t Take ‘No’ For an Answer

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I have a nagging five-year-old who won’t take “no” for an answer. I have done my best to turn off my brain and repeat the same line over and over, but I think it’s time for a consequence since he keeps nagging me and won’t stop. I’m just not sure what the consequence should be. Any suggestions? -Courtney, Solon, Ohio

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How to Take the Struggle Out of Mealtime

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I struggle with getting my 8-year-old to eat dinner. I have taken tons of advice and done what doctors and other experts have suggested: not allowing him to eat anything beside what I prepare, allowing him  to eat whatever he wants, taking away TV, allowing him to eat whenever he wants, having him sit at dinner and snack later, bribing him to eat with candy. Nothing works. He sometimes refuses to eat at mealtime, then he says he’s hungry later, so I feed him. What now? -Gemma, New York, New York

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How to Enforce Personal Boundaries With Your Kid

Dear Kid Whisperer,

Every morning my 12-year-old son feels the need to constantly knock on my bathroom door to ask or tell me something mundane. How do I get him to stop this inappropriate habit? In addition to being annoying for me, my fiancée is always still sleeping at this point in the morning, and this is causing more tension. I tell my son constantly to let me get ready in peace and to finish getting ready himself, and that once we are both ready, we can talk. – Christie, Boston, Massachusetts

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Gem City Podcast: April 1, 2020

Any time of crisis requires sacrifice, and the Coronavirus is no exception. The sacrifice is relatively simple at this point: stay at home. Sounds easy right? Not necessarily.

Parents are finding themselves suddenly working from home and teaching their kids at the same time. Not to mention teachers, who have had to completely switch to online learning with little to no time or resources to do so, who are often juggling their own kids in the process.

In this episode we  find strategies to help both parents and teachers navigate this weird new world during the Coronavirus crisis.