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How to Stop Using Your Useless, Hurtful Classroom Behavior Chart

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I teach third grade and I use a behavior chart. All of the kids start out with a red, a yellow, and a green card by their names. If a kid does something “bad,” I usually give a warning. The next time, they lose their green card. The next time, they lose their yellow and lose five minutes of recess. After that, they lose their red and go to the principal and I call home. I think I am like many teachers who feel like the chart doesn’t work, but I don’t know what else to use. –Jackie, Dayton, Ohio

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How to Be the Only Parent in the World Who is an Unreasonable Moron

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I am the mother of a 17 year old boy. He has his license. I am totally uncomfortable with him driving with anyone else in the car. I just see how he acts with other people around him when he’s not driving. He’s not horribly irresponsible, but he’s (and I love him) goofy and immature. He whines and complains that I am not being reasonable. He says that I am the only parent who has this rule. I’m a single mom, so I don’t have anyone to bounce this one off of, and I’m thinking about changing my rule about this. Do you think I should? –Joan, Centerville, Ohio

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How to Deal with Your Kid When They Hurt People at School

Dear Kid Whisperer,

My daughter is on her way to getting kicked out of preschool because she hits and bites kids. My husband and I work full time and there is no possible way that we can stay home with her. I guess my question is how do I get her to stop hurting kids at preschool so I don’t have to quit my job? –Kendra, Rockville, Illinois

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How to Keep Your Kid Safe in Parking Lots and While Crossing the Street

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I have a concern with my five year old son. About a year ago, he started refusing to hold my hand when crossing the street and when walking in parking lots. I try to convince him to hold my hand but nothing works. I don’t want to be the kind of parent who yells at their child or forces them to do things, but I worry about his safety. He has run away from me in the parking lot a couple of times recently. What should I do? –Shannon, Louisville, Kentucky

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How to Recover from Not Learning Anything About Classroom Management in College

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I am a second year teacher. Last year I taught fifth grade and this year I am in Kindergarten. Both years I have struggled with classroom management. I go over rules daily and have the kids repeat. I have a behavior chart that I am consistent with. The kids just still do not respect me. How do I get them to? I have three boys who have very difficult behavior. They refuse to stay in their seats, they tell me no, and they just laugh when they are asked to clip down. Any suggestions? Any help would be much appreciated. Thank You. -Riley, San Diego, CA

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How to Have a Stress-Free Mealtime with a Picky Eater

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I have a question about mealtimes. I know that you believe in allowing kids to suffer natural consequences. When it comes to offering kids new foods and they refuse, would the natural consequence just be missing that meal? – Erica, Honolulu, Hawaii

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How to Get Your Kid in His Room for Bedtime On Time, Every Time

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I have just started going to your website and I have tried a couple of your suggestions with my five year old. They work. I am having a problem with bedtime, however. Even though he has an 8:00 bedtime, it is usually at least 9:30 before his mother and I can get him in bed because we are bargaining and bribing him to go to bed. Help please. -Garry, Indianapolis, Indiana

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How to Get Your Students to Stop Pushing Your Buttons

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I teach fifth grade and I have a student who is driving me crazy. I have been to Kid Whisperer Professional development at my school, so I have used “Recovery” with this student, but when I send him to Recovery he smirks and sort of swaggers as he goes there. IT DRIVES ME CRAZY!!! What do I do in to not go through the roof the next time he does it? Hurry! I know he is going to do it tomorrow! –Kathy, Centerville, Ohio

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How to Get a Student to Keep His Hands Off Other Kids

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I have a 1st grade student who can’t keep his hands off other kids. He pokes girls and spanks boys. I’m having a hard time coming up with good consequences for him. What would be a good consequence for this? -Terri, Iowa City, Iowa

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