Advice Blog

How to Put an End to Gift-Snooping

Dear Kid Whisperer,

We need help figuring out a logical consequence for our almost 9-year-old son who snuck into our closet (definitely off-limits) and snooped around and climbed up to the top shelf and found his big birthday present. This happened last year at Christmas and we thought ruining the surprise for himself was lesson enough, but apparently it didn’t stick with him. What’s a logical consequence? We don’t want to be cruel and not give it to him, but do want to leave him with a memorable lesson in respecting privacy.  -Mary, San Antonio, Texas

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How to Get Online Students to Work Hard

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I am now teaching third grade online, and I have come upon a problem. Real-World Workshop is a fantastic way of managing independent work time in my classroom, and it works great online– unless students just refuse to do what they have to do (Nows), and they go straight to what they would rather do (Laters). What do I do when this happens? -Jennifer, Columbus, Ohio

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The Kid Whisperer Podcast Featuring Scott Ervin and Pat Kiely: Episode 3

 

Topics in this episode include:

Do other parents use time-out with their 12-year-olds?

How do I deal with my 11-year-old daughter throwing things and crying to get what she wants?

How do I keep a kindergarten student from running out of the room?

I feel like I am being bullied by an 8-year-old!

My toddler won’t stay in her bed during naptime.

How to Avoid Using Reminders While Showing Love For Your Kids

Dear Kid Whisperer,

This might not be a good question because it isn’t about a specific situation with my 15-year-old, but a general problem. I have to remind her over and over about everything: the way she speaks to me, cleaning up her room, you name it. She is generally cooperative after I tell her something a billion times, but I’m just so exhausted from talking. I feel like there must be a better way to get her to act the way I want her to act. -Karen, Orlando, FL

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How to Keep the Back Seat Clean

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I handed my 5-year-old a few books and some trash from his car seat and asked him to take it into the house and put it where it belongs. He put it back on the car seat, said “no” and walked in the house. I am proud of myself that I didn’t react, but now I have no idea what to do about it. -Theresa, Miami, Florida

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How to Handle a Kid Who Refuses to Shower

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I know a certain 11-year-old who doesn’t want to do anything in the shower but wash her hair (because she likes how soft and pretty it is when it’s clean). She will go as far as turning on the shower to make us THINK she’s bathing, and then just wash her hair in the sink. She stinks. What do I do? -Jenelle, Iowa City, Iowa

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The Kid Whisperer Podcast Featuring Scott Ervin and Pat Kiely: Episode 2

 

Topics in this episode include:

At what age can your techniques first be used with a baby or toddler?

What happens when the kid behaves so poorly for a continuous time that she is now inundated with multiple consequences?

How do you get kids to actually USE their work time in class?

What do I do when my child talks back to me or is disrespectful?

How do I handle a small group of students who disrupt the entire class?

How to Turn Down Your Kid’s Volume

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I have a very loud daughter. Her volume is always turned all the way up. I find myself telling her she needs to be quiet, but I really don’t like that message. Do you have a better one-liner than “be quiet”? -Anne, Honolulu, Hawaii

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How to Handle a Kid Who Hates Showering

Dear Kid Whisperer,

My 5-year-old refuses to shower. This has been happening for the last two years. When it’s time for a shower, he screams, he yells, he hides. It’s exhausting. I feel like I’ve tried everything. What do I do? -Annie, Omaha, Nebraska

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