Advice Blog

How to Deal With Judgment From Other Adults

Dear Kid Whisperer,

My question is about adults. I take my seven-year-old to a nearby park every few days. I allow my child to explore and run around all over the large park, and I have now had a couple awkward interactions with parents who will deliver my child to me when my he goes out of my sight. They have said some vaguely judgmental things upon delivery, like: “I’m sure you didn’t mean to let him out of your sight.” Frankly, I don’t need to have my eyes on him all the time. He’s safe in the park. I don’t know what to say to these people. Anne, Los Angeles, California

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The Kid Whisperer Podcast Featuring Scott Ervin and Pat Kiely: Episode 6

Topics in this episode include:

Why don’t we talk about “teacher burnout?”

How do you handle a 17-year-old who refuses to contribute to your household?

What should I do when my kid fakes sick to stay home from school?

I feel like my students don’t like me. Am I just being insecure?

 

How to Handle a Kid Experiencing Separation Sadness

Dear Kid Whisperer,

My wife just went back to work in an office after working from home for the last year. I am still working from home and am also taking care of my three-year-old son. Whenever my wife leaves the apartment, he completely freaks out. He screams and yells and tries to will himself through our front door to follow her. He cries for hours as I try to tell him that she will be back, that she misses him too, etcetera. I’m not sure where to go from here. -Mike, Nashville, Tennessee

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How to Deal With a Moody Nine-Year-Old

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I am at a loss with my nine-year-old daughter. She wakes up in a bad mood and stays in it all day. She mopes. She rolls her eyes when her father and I talk. We try to cheer her up. We talk to her about how to have a more positive attitude. Nothing helps, unless we take her to do something really fun, and that only works briefly. We are not sure what to do now. -Jennifer, Dayton, Ohio

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How to Gently Guide Kids in the Classroom

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I have a student in my fourth-grade class who has been diagnosed with severe anxiety and ADHD. These diagnoses are right on: everything I do seems to agitate him and nothing I do gets him to pay attention. What now? -Mary, Bar Harbor, Maine

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How to Set a Limit With Your Principal

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I asked you a question a few weeks ago about my third graders coming back from recess most days angry at each other. I told you about how their tattling about what happened at recess was wreaking havoc in the classroom after recess. You answered it, and that answer was very helpful. But now more students are coming to me every day with stories of chaos at recess, even kids getting in fights with no consequences, and sometimes adults not being aware of it. There are not enough adults out there, and the ones who are are not holding students accountable. I’m at a loss. -Mark, Lansing, Michigan

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How to Put an End to Post-Recess Tattling

Dear Kid Whisperer,

My students are always coming in from recess angry at each other. Really, there are two boys in particular that cause 90% of the issues. There’s always an argument over a game or some such thing. I do read-alouds with my third graders at that time and lose tons of time most days because I’m always trying to figure out what happened and generally get to the bottom of it. We barely ever get to read at all anymore. What do I do? –Mark, Lansing, Michigan

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How to Put an End to Arguing in Your Classroom

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I have come up against a behavior with my 8th grade students that I don’t know what to do with, and that behavior has multiplied in one of my class periods to the point that it puts a stop to all instruction almost every day. I call it strategic arguing. I have four students in my fifth period class who have realized that they can stop me from teaching if they argue with me. I can see it in their eyes- they’re messing with me. What do I do? I have to teach, and I don’t want to be messed with. -Jay, Phoenix, Arizona

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The Kid Whisperer Podcast Featuring Scott Ervin and Pat Kiely: Episode 5

Topics in this episode include:

What do I do about a nearly 13-year-old that won’t wake up in the morning? Alarm clocks don’t work.

Should my kids have to pay for the game they broke?

My 9th grader refuses to attend any of her Google Meets. We are starting to receive truancy letters. What do I do?

When a student “tattles,” should you deal with it or ignore it?