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The Kid Whisperer Podcast Featuring Scott Ervin and Pat Kiely: Episode 2

 

Topics in this episode include:

At what age can your techniques first be used with a baby or toddler?

What happens when the kid behaves so poorly for a continuous time that she is now inundated with multiple consequences?

How do you get kids to actually USE their work time in class?

What do I do when my child talks back to me or is disrespectful?

How do I handle a small group of students who disrupt the entire class?

How to Turn Down Your Kid’s Volume

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I have a very loud daughter. Her volume is always turned all the way up. I find myself telling her she needs to be quiet, but I really don’t like that message. Do you have a better one-liner than “be quiet”? -Anne, Honolulu, Hawaii

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How to Handle a Kid Who Hates Showering

Dear Kid Whisperer,

My 5-year-old refuses to shower. This has been happening for the last two years. When it’s time for a shower, he screams, he yells, he hides. It’s exhausting. I feel like I’ve tried everything. What do I do? -Annie, Omaha, Nebraska

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How to Avoid Using an Illogical Punishment

Dear Kid Whisperer,

My 5-year-old (almost 6) often has his tablet taken away because he will pinch or hit or kick his little brother who is almost 4. Then the 4-year-old will let him use his tablet. Should I not let him do this? Or should I just let the 4-year-old make that choice? -Mary, Topeka, Kansas

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How to Help Your Kid to Ditch Technology and Rejoin Society

Dear Kid Whisperer,

My 10-year-old regularly does not want to eat dinner with us. I’ve told him how important I think family time is and that I want him to eat with us, but he just wants to eat in his room. Sometimes I demand that he eat with us and this is a daily battle. Any suggestions on how to handle this? My son is in his room almost all day playing Roblox or watching TV. He does get out for some breaks, but I’m not sure it’s often enough. -Sara, Kitty Hawk, NC

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How to Handle a Kid who Wants to Control Everything

Dear Kid Whisperer,

How do you handle an almost 4-year-old who wants to control everything? He had a friend over and I was outside with the friend’s parents. It started to rain, so we said we were going inside, and my son stood in front of the door with his arms stretched and said, “No we aren’t!” When we got inside, he took toys from his friend. I took him aside and said he needed to play kindly or we would ask our friends to leave. Then they went upstairs and played for awhile. My son and his friend moved every piece of furniture in front of his door including his mattress, bedding, books, clothes, and hangers. He said they did it because they wanted to stay together. I had him clean up the mess and said next time you won’t be able to play upstairs alone together. I just feel embarrassed that my son was such a bossy terror. Do you have advice?

-Jessica, Ft. Lauderdale, Florida

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How to Deal With Constant Requests for Snacks

Dear Kid Whisperer,

 

Snacking. My kids are eating 24/7. We have plenty to do, but everything we do needs a snack to go with it. I also don’t want to give my kids eating complexes. I’m trying to balance it out. I need phrases to get them through to the next meal. We do have a mid-day snack every day, but they want dessert after every meal, too! -Mary, Louisville, KY

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The Kid Whisperer Podcast Featuring Scott Ervin and Pat Kiely

A PODCAST 25 YEARS IN THE MAKING

Behold: “The Kid Whisperer Podcast!”

25 years ago, Pat Kiely and Scott Ervin met as poorly behaved children in school. Now they have a podcast about how people can deal with poorly behaved children in school.

This pod is for anyone who works with kids. In this video podcast, I answer live questions from parents and teachers about how to train kids to use positive behaviors that will allow them to be successful instead of training them to end up in prison.

I have no prior knowledge of the questions. This is a lively, funny, and I hope, helpful discussion that I think you might enjoy. Beware, like most of my conversations with Pat, there is some adult content in the podcast.

Perhaps, after 25 years of being bad influences on each other, Pat and I will help people and make them laugh, instead of annoying people with jokes that only we think are funny.

Perhaps.

Play: The Kid Whisperer Podcast Featuring Scott Ervin and Pat Kiely

How to Deal With Clashing Parenting Styles in Shared Custody

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I came to see a parent workshop you did and I used the Love and Logic™ skill that you taught and immersed myself in Love and Logic™ books and other materials. It has changed my life and my relationship with my daughter. The problem is, I am divorced from her father, who has shared custody. He doesn’t have these skills and he is mean and yells at her a lot. I try to tell him how to do what I have learned and I get frustrated when my daughter reports to me about how he yelled at her because she acted out in ways that she never tries with me anymore. How do I get her dad to use these wonderful skills? -Tamara, Nashville, TN

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How to Deal With a Kid Who Won’t Take ‘No’ For an Answer

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I have a nagging five-year-old who won’t take “no” for an answer. I have done my best to turn off my brain and repeat the same line over and over, but I think it’s time for a consequence since he keeps nagging me and won’t stop. I’m just not sure what the consequence should be. Any suggestions? -Courtney, Solon, Ohio

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