I recently attended one of your workshops at my school. You touched on the idea that when a student does something that needs a consequence, you should do the consequence later so you don’t have to stop teaching and so you can come up with something that makes sense. My question is this: what if the student is hurting someone? I can’t wait to deal with that later. -Pat, Cincinnati, Ohio
I teach 5th grade. I have a student who visits the bathroom whenever he is bored. Yesterday he left the room ten times. I don’t believe in limiting bathroom breaks, because it’s a bodily right. He is missing a lot of instruction and it’s getting increasingly worse. What should I do? -Libby, St. Paul, Minnesota
First of all, I have attended 2 of your seminars and have absolutely loved them. I tried the “I’ll begin when you are quiet” technique today. They never got quiet. How much time should I spend waiting? I feel like I am wasting so much time. Thank you so much for your time. -Riley, Moscow, Idaho
When I take my kids out to a movie, restaurant, pool, beach, play palace, park, basically anything, immediately after we leave said activity, the kids are asking to do something else. No “Thank you,” no “We had a great time”, no appreciation… just “What do I get next?” I am so fed up with this behavior. This me, me, me attitude and entitlement is driving me crazy. What do I do? -Jessica, Saugatuck, Michigan
I grew up with nothing. It is one of the great thrills of my life to now be able to take my two children (14 and 16) on expensive trips, to give them gifts, and basically give them everything that they want. I can easily afford all of this. It does take some of the luster away when they don’t say thank you, unless it’s a serious luxury item. I bought my daughter a nice, new, luxury car, for example. Am I right in thinking they will come to appreciate these things in time? –Manual, Sacramento, California
I have a bully in my 5th-grade language arts class. He is verbally bullying one of my other students. We had an anti-bullying speaker talk to all of the students already this year. I have told the student to stop bullying the other student, and I have even put the child who is being bullied at a desk near mine at the parent’s request. Nothing has worked. The bully just seeks out the other child during non-instructional time to victimize him. What do I do now? – Carla, Phoenix, Arizona
Parents! I will be doing a 2-hour session on Thursday, September 14th from 6-8pm at Christ Church United Methodist in Kettering, Ohio. The cost is only $5 per person or couple AND there is childcare available! Don’t miss out!
I am a grandparent to three granddaughters who have parents that try, but don’t like to say “no” to their children. They want my husband and me to be on board with that philosophy as well. As former educators, we cannot with a clear conscience agree. We are finding it harder to spend time with our grandkids. Any good advice? Sara, Bexley, Ohio