How to Take Care of Yourself and Your Students in the Lunchroom

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I am just an aide and my question is about our lunchroom, so I don’t know if you will be able to answer it. The kids in my K-5 school are out of control at lunch. They are loud, they make a huge mess and don’t follow the rules. We aides are literally running around the cafeteria trying to clean their messes, and help them with their food, all while they are yelling and acting crazy. How do we make it so the kids act right and how do we make it so that our jobs aren’t awful? Because right now I want to quit. -Cheyenne, Charleston, WV

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How to Handle a Kid Who LOVES His Consequence

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I attended your training a few weeks ago and have been putting your ways into practice. I have a few kids who are really testing me since I’ve been trying new methods. The other day, one child starting breaking pencils for the fun of it. I thought “fantastic, I know just how to solve this”. So I said “Bummer, it takes a lot to make a pencil, and since you’ve been taking so much of my energy anyway, let’s give it back by sharpening pencils.” This was during recess, because it’s the only time available. Well…he loved doing it!!! He asked me for more!!!! Talk about my blood boiling. This was not how I pictured this going. What are your suggestions to react when they seem to enjoy what’s supposed to be a not fun consequence? I need help with this kiddo! Thanks for all you do and for your great ideas. -Lilly, Nashville, TN

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How to Deal with Kids Being Disrespectful to Adults

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I am a middle school principal. I had a situation in the lunch room where one of our eighth graders was making fun of a custodian by calling him “baldy”. Both the custodian and I reacted by yelling at the kid. As he and his friends started to laugh, I realized that it wasn’t the best move. My idle threats of suspending kids who were laughing stopped most of the laughing, and me physically intimidating the remaining two laughers by getting in their faces quieted the rest. I realized that what I did was not effective, but I’m not sure what to do next time to not put myself in that position. – Malik, Los Angeles, California

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How to Stop Using Your Useless, Hurtful Classroom Behavior Chart

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I teach third grade and I use a behavior chart. All of the kids start out with a red, a yellow, and a green card by their names. If a kid does something “bad,” I usually give a warning. The next time, they lose their green card. The next time, they lose their yellow and lose five minutes of recess. After that, they lose their red and go to the principal and I call home. I think I am like many teachers who feel like the chart doesn’t work, but I don’t know what else to use. –Jackie, Dayton, Ohio

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How to Recover from Not Learning Anything About Classroom Management in College

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I am a second year teacher. Last year I taught fifth grade and this year I am in Kindergarten. Both years I have struggled with classroom management. I go over rules daily and have the kids repeat. I have a behavior chart that I am consistent with. The kids just still do not respect me. How do I get them to? I have three boys who have very difficult behavior. They refuse to stay in their seats, they tell me no, and they just laugh when they are asked to clip down. Any suggestions? Any help would be much appreciated. Thank You. -Riley, San Diego, CA

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How to Get Your Students to Stop Pushing Your Buttons

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I teach fifth grade and I have a student who is driving me crazy. I have been to Kid Whisperer Professional development at my school, so I have used “Recovery” with this student, but when I send him to Recovery he smirks and sort of swaggers as he goes there. IT DRIVES ME CRAZY!!! What do I do in to not go through the roof the next time he does it? Hurry! I know he is going to do it tomorrow! –Kathy, Centerville, Ohio

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