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How to Avoid Using Reminders While Showing Love For Your Kids

Dear Kid Whisperer,

This might not be a good question because it isn’t about a specific situation with my 15-year-old, but a general problem. I have to remind her over and over about everything: the way she speaks to me, cleaning up her room, you name it. She is generally cooperative after I tell her something a billion times, but I’m just so exhausted from talking. I feel like there must be a better way to get her to act the way I want her to act. -Karen, Orlando, FL

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How to Keep the Back Seat Clean

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I handed my 5-year-old a few books and some trash from his car seat and asked him to take it into the house and put it where it belongs. He put it back on the car seat, said “no” and walked in the house. I am proud of myself that I didn’t react, but now I have no idea what to do about it. -Theresa, Miami, Florida

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How to Handle a Kid Who Refuses to Shower

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I know a certain 11-year-old who doesn’t want to do anything in the shower but wash her hair (because she likes how soft and pretty it is when it’s clean). She will go as far as turning on the shower to make us THINK she’s bathing, and then just wash her hair in the sink. She stinks. What do I do? -Jenelle, Iowa City, Iowa

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How to Turn Down Your Kid’s Volume

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I have a very loud daughter. Her volume is always turned all the way up. I find myself telling her she needs to be quiet, but I really don’t like that message. Do you have a better one-liner than “be quiet”? -Anne, Honolulu, Hawaii

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How to Handle a Kid Who Hates Showering

Dear Kid Whisperer,

My 5-year-old refuses to shower. This has been happening for the last two years. When it’s time for a shower, he screams, he yells, he hides. It’s exhausting. I feel like I’ve tried everything. What do I do? -Annie, Omaha, Nebraska

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How to Avoid Using an Illogical Punishment

Dear Kid Whisperer,

My 5-year-old (almost 6) often has his tablet taken away because he will pinch or hit or kick his little brother who is almost 4. Then the 4-year-old will let him use his tablet. Should I not let him do this? Or should I just let the 4-year-old make that choice? -Mary, Topeka, Kansas

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How to Help Your Kid to Ditch Technology and Rejoin Society

Dear Kid Whisperer,

My 10-year-old regularly does not want to eat dinner with us. I’ve told him how important I think family time is and that I want him to eat with us, but he just wants to eat in his room. Sometimes I demand that he eat with us and this is a daily battle. Any suggestions on how to handle this? My son is in his room almost all day playing Roblox or watching TV. He does get out for some breaks, but I’m not sure it’s often enough. -Sara, Kitty Hawk, NC

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How to Handle a Kid who Wants to Control Everything

Dear Kid Whisperer,

How do you handle an almost 4-year-old who wants to control everything? He had a friend over and I was outside with the friend’s parents. It started to rain, so we said we were going inside, and my son stood in front of the door with his arms stretched and said, “No we aren’t!” When we got inside, he took toys from his friend. I took him aside and said he needed to play kindly or we would ask our friends to leave. Then they went upstairs and played for awhile. My son and his friend moved every piece of furniture in front of his door including his mattress, bedding, books, clothes, and hangers. He said they did it because they wanted to stay together. I had him clean up the mess and said next time you won’t be able to play upstairs alone together. I just feel embarrassed that my son was such a bossy terror. Do you have advice?

-Jessica, Ft. Lauderdale, Florida

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How to Deal With Constant Requests for Snacks

Dear Kid Whisperer,

 

Snacking. My kids are eating 24/7. We have plenty to do, but everything we do needs a snack to go with it. I also don’t want to give my kids eating complexes. I’m trying to balance it out. I need phrases to get them through to the next meal. We do have a mid-day snack every day, but they want dessert after every meal, too! -Mary, Louisville, KY

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