How to Get Your Kid in His Room for Bedtime On Time, Every Time

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I have just started going to your website and I have tried a couple of your suggestions with my five year old. They work. I am having a problem with bedtime, however. Even though he has an 8:00 bedtime, it is usually at least 9:30 before his mother and I can get him in bed because we are bargaining and bribing him to go to bed. Help please. -Garry, Indianapolis, Indiana

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How to Improve Your Child’s Memory

Dear Kid Whisperer,

As we get toward fall, I am anticipating having the same problem I had last year with my 9-year-old. He lost five coats last year. When I ask how he lost his coat he just shrugs his shoulders. The last time he lost one, he actually yelled at me, saying that he’s not meaning to lose his coats. He has to have a coat. I can’t send him outside to freeze to death. Nothing I say helps. What should I do? Jill, Springfield

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How to Keep Your Kid from Whining to Get Something

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I need some help with my 8-year-old. I dread taking her into stores because she constantly asks for her mother and I to buy her things. If we say “no,” she whines and begs. While sometimes we give in and buy her things once she has begged for a while, and we do have the occasional tantrum. The whining is what is driving us crazy. How do we avoid the whining and tantrums altogether?

— Patrick, Columbus

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How to Respond to ‘Why? Why? Why?’ Questions

Dear Kid Whisperer,

My 3-year-old is driving me crazy. I don’t really know if you can call this a “behavioral problem.” He is doing something that I know is typical, but knowing this hasn’t saved me from losing my mind. He keeps asking me “Why?” about every single little thing that happens! “Why are you doing that?” “Why? Why? Why?” I notice that he’s not even listening to my answer. Do I ignore him? Do I run away? What do I do? — Phil, Omaha, Neb.

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How to Get Your Teen to Keep a Clean Room

Dear Kid Whisperer,

I have been having a power struggle with my 16 year old for the last 10 years about the mess in his room. I am exhausted from it. I am embarrassed at how long I have been fighting this battle and how long he has been winning it. I have grounded him, taken away privileges, you name it. Sometimes when I really threaten and yell, he will pick up most of his things. He leaves his stuff around the rest of the house as well. He will be going to college the year after next. Should I just give up on this one and just pick my battles? I’m not sure what to do.

— Sarah

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