Kid Whisperer Nation Teacher Tip Number 151
USE “BLUE COLLAR BULLIES” TO NEUTRALIZE “WHITE COLLAR BULLIES”
Bullies come in one of two forms, although hybrids do exist. Where you put the bullies in your room will depend upon how you identify them.
Blue-Collar Bully (BCB): This kind of bully is your rough and tough “give me your lunch money” type. They use the blunt instruments of physical threats and violence to intimidate smaller and weaker students. Oftentimes, these students are less-than subtle about their bullying.
White-Collar Bully (WCB): This kind of bully uses insults, backstabbing, and gossip to bully other students. Usually, these students are more sneaky and subtle than their blue-collar cousins. Often, they are more difficult to spot and manipulative of their teachers.
When creating teams and seating charts, keep in mind that BCBs will often neutralize WCBs. The WCB is often very weak (physically and emotionally) and is often physically intimidated by the mere presence of a Blue Collar Bully. The WCB will usually leave a BCB alone, and will usually leave alone those students who are friendly with the BCB. In this way, students often fall under the protective umbrella of the BCB. In addition, the BCB is less likely to intimidate other students because he can feel a relatively healthy feeling of control because he sees himself as a protector of his friends against the WCB and this can help to fulfill his control need.
Kid Whisperer Nation Teacher Tip Number 152
NEVER ALLOW STUDENTS TO CHANGE THEIR PERMANENT SEAT BECAUSE THEY DON’T GET ALONG WITH SOMEONE
No matter how well you arrange your students, there will be difficulties between your students throughout the year. Of course, this is normal and healthy. From time to time, parents will become frustrated that their child is having difficulties with another student who sits next to them and wants their kid to be moved. The short answer to this request is “No.”
The reason for this is that students need to figure out how to deal with difficult people, and the price tag for doing so is as low today as it will ever be. It is better that students learn strategies for dealing with people whom they are different from or have different values than, in a safe environment now, rather than having them learn this in a bar when they are 21.
Kid Whisperer Nation Teacher Tip Number 153
GET BIGGER, FASTER, AND MORE INTENSE
With teachers having less and less time to create quality, engaging lesson plans, we often have to rely on things that take little or no time to get kids more engaged. This one takes literally no time. Simply become emotionally charged in your teaching. Jump around. Safely throw stuff. Stand on a desk. Get LOUD. Don’t plan it (you don’t have time to anyway). Just do it.
Kid Whisperer Nation Teacher Tip Number 154
ACT AS TIRED AS YOU FEEL
Especially in the spring, you are tired. Act like it. Moving slowly, talking with a soft voice and taking deep breaths before answering questions are all great ways to slow down the pace of your classroom, draw students in, and hit Control-Alt-Delete on your own hard drive.
Kid Whisperer Nation Teacher Tip Number 155
RUN IN SCHOOL, TALK IN THE HALLWAY, DRINK POP
You are not subject to school rules. Those rules are for children. We have really gone over to the dark side of crazy when teachers think they have to follow rules made for students. You are an adult. There is an entirely different set of rules for you in and outside of your school.