Kid Whisperer Nation Teacher Tips #156-160

Kid Whisperer Nation Teacher Tip Number 156

DO NOT PICK YOUR BATTLES

Teachers who “pick their battles” with kids have far more battles from which to pick. If a kid exhibits a behavior that needs to stop in order for your classroom to function effectively and for that kid to avoid prison, that kid needs to learn, through consequences, that exhibiting the behavior in question will not get him what he wants.

Kid Whisperer Nation Teacher Tip Number 157

SAY GOODBYE LIKE YOU WILL NEVER SEE YOUR STUDENTS AGAIN

This is easy to do on the last day of school (because you often won’t see them again) but it is a good rule of thumb to keep in mind as much as you can during the year. No matter how stressed you are during the school day, it is about to be over when they are walking out the door or onto the bus, so if you take a second to truly take an authentic moment to say “goodbye” the way you would if you thought you may not see that kid again, it will go a long way to building a relationship with that kid. Do this as much as you can, because the truth is, you truly may never see that kid again.

Kid Whisperer Nation Teacher Tip Number 158 (Summer Edition)

MAKE A MARGARITA

Here you go:
3⁄4 oz Fresh squeezed lime juice
1 oz Cointreau, triple sec or another orange liqueur
1 1⁄2 oz Blanco tequila
Kosher salt (optional)
1) Add the ingredients to a shaker filled with ice and shake.
2) Strain into a chilled cocktail glass or rocks glass filled with
fresh ice.
3) Garnish with a lime wheel.
4) If at some point, you start to think about the last school
year or next school year, repeat steps 1-3.

Kid Whisperer Nation Teacher Tip Number 159

DON’ T TRY TO THINK QUICKLY

Especially in the beginning of the year when you may be amped up and trying to make some of the 1,500 decisions that teachers make per day, the last think you want to do is to cause yourself any more stress than you have to. “BUT!!!” —you may be thinking, “I have a million things to do! I have to think quickly.” Well, sort of. Here’s the thing: All teachers have the ability to slow down their classrooms by slowing down the minds of everyone in that classroom. The way to do this is to use the same sound, word, or very short phrase. This phrase should be said slowly and on the exhale (because if you say something on the exhale, you force yourself to inhale first). Using the same verbal signal (mine is “oh, man”) calms you down, calms your students down and presses the slow button on your class. It allows you to be able to stop, think, and then act appropriately instead of just reacting. It slows down your students in the same way as well.

Kid Whisperer Nation Teacher Tip Number 160

USE THE EMPATHY-SADNESS-SMILE-CONSEQUENCE COMBO

When a kid does something that is kid-designed to get you angry, try an empathy-sadness-smile-consequence combo. Use an empathetic response (mine is “oh, man”), become very sad, then smile a huge smile, and let the kid know that you will be doing something about that behavior later. What this advanced combo says to the kid is “I love you, I’m setting a limit, and your attempt at making me angry and entertaining failed. How sad for you.”