Tip for Parents #7
DO NOT CONFUSE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE WITH UNCONDITIONAL POSITIVE REGARD
So many parents think that loving your kids unconditionally means accepting everything they do as being OK. This will usually lead to kids becoming adults who believe that they are entitled to unconditional positive regard from everyone they meet. Of course, this will end poorly. These adults will be constantly shocked and disappointed that their obnoxious behaviors are not tolerated or appreciated by peers, teachers, and bosses.
Loving your kids in a healthy way means setting limits and not allowing negative behaviors to continue.
Tip for Parents #8
ENJOY YOUR KIDS WHEN ALL IS WELL
It is so easy for life to overtake us. When we are working hard in the home or at a workplace, life can seem overwhelming. If we are dealing with negative behaviors from our kids, it seems to be even tougher. Even though we may be tired, having fun with your kid will improve your life. It will also encourage positive behaviors since kids will notice that when their behaviors are positive, parents are more likely to be fun and playful!
Tip for Parents #9
MODEL NOT KNOWING THINGS
This one is so very important for me since my daughter is a know-it-all like her father.
Saying “I have no idea, but I may know how to find the answer!” models learning and shows that it is OK not to know things; that learning is more important than knowing.
Tip for Parents #10
PANIC ISN’T ALWAYS AN OVERREACTION
When kids exhibit extremely negative behaviors like hitting, biting, or stealing, being extremely concerned- even panicky -is a much more healthy response than to think, “It’s just a phase!” and do nothing. Thinking, “This must stop as soon as possible” is the first step to making the behavior non-functional.
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Tip for Parents #11
“NO” IS NOT A DIRTY WORD
The idea that we will hurt our kids’ self-esteem if we correct their behavior or don’t give them everything that they want may be the most dangerous idea in the world of parenting.